Scrolling through the articles but need some short impulses? Then my short inspirational texts from March 2019 could be right for you. Sharing my thoughts on different topics like selfconfidence, perfectionism etc.! Wanna share one of these posts? I wrote them mainly for instagram, but some of them are on facebook too. Have fun and feel inspired!

Happiness is an inside job (04/03/19)

Did you recognize the mentality of the most successful people? – It sounds weird but they don’t care about in most cases WHAT OTHERS MIGHT THINK OF THEM.

I was always interested in positive psychology – I wanted to know how my way of thinking and acting can influence myself and others in a positive way. But soon i found out it is not only about how i love myself but also protect myself from negativity.

Here is one sentence I always keep in mind: people who wanna understand you wrong, will understand you wrong. It is like they have a filter through which they see you as a reflection of their own selfhate. Everything you do is wrong in their eyes.

That’s why it is important to distance yourself from others and give external validation no power. When you think you are awesome who in this world has the right to tell you, you are not? Don’t let others define how happy you are allowed to be or how much love you deserve. When you know who you are, no one in this whole wide world has the power to take this away from you!

Unmarried? (11/03/2019)

„Get married or you will be lonely your whole life and get depressive“ – from a certain view maybe correct, because in some points in life especially when we see our friends and family getting married etc. we think about how it would be if we would make the same step. And yes it is true, that everyone of us feels sometimes lonely. Let’s be honest – life isn’t always glamorous. Up and downs are an important part and a trigger for #selfgrowth.

But what if we hurry up to marry someone and end up being lonely despite the fact we adhered the social norm? Being lonely or happy, has nothing to do with a relationship status. It can be a valuable addition to your life but don’t let your #happiness depend on external validation! It will kill your happiness in the long run.

Yesterday i asked in my stories if love is build or found. If you wanna know my opinion continue reading. I think the film industry gives us an unrealistic picture of love and how love should be. It should „click“ from the very first view and everything is smooth from the beginning. I personally think it is a combination of someone who has important similarities concerning the mindset but also finding together. The first „click“ is just a mixture of hormones, everything what comes after needs hard work and patience.

Wanna read an article about the struggles of „Being unmarried and 30?“ Then click here.

Make a difference (15/03/19)

The last days i thought about how it would have been when i listened in every life decision to what others said. For me i can claim that i would not be that person who i am to day. Listening to others while neglecting what we really want, is striving for acceptance we will never get – or maybe not in that intensity we wish.

So, trust yourself, be yourself because NOTHING in the world will replace your self satisfaction. External validation is temporary and can change ANYTIME. Think about who you are when external factors become no longer necessary. Are you still happy? Is that the life you always wanted to have?

Being vulnerable (16/03/19)

Being vulnerable is like opening a suprising box, have a look in the head and soul of someone else. This takes a lot of courage and most people decide to shut down because the expected negativity overweighs the wish to be the person they are. But opening up gives you the opportunity to magnetize many people with the same mindset. It helps us to build strong and deep relationships.

Selfacceptance and Bodyshaming (18/03/19)

It takes a lot of courage for me to write the following paragraphs. These days i thought about my selfimage while i wrote with a photographer for an appointment for a shooting. The first thoughts which went through my head were „Oh maybe this summer, then i will have my ‚top/ summer/ athletic body‘. Before that i should work out a lot.“

There is nothing wrong of having the aim of being fit and im always i fan of workouts and fitness because for me i can say that it helps me to feel better. But what disturbed me was that i thought that i have to be my „best“ version to have a shoot. Why? I always struggled after puberty with my weight. With my 1,55m there are times where i weigh +10kg more than during my „best times“. One of this times was the end of my studies. What is and was on my mind is, that i’m only complete and valuable person when i don’t have this extra kilos.

I started to change my mind. I am the SAME person despite what i weigh. So i made an appointment with the photographer. I am who i am – with +-10 kilos and people who like it are invited to stay in my life and people who don’t like it can go It is time to change the mindset that we are only +-6 months a year worthy a photo, event etc.!! Change your attitude and your life will change!

Failure (26/03/19)

During my vacation I continued reading Michelle Obama’s book (what an inspiring woman!) and I loved the sentence which described that most of the people which belong to a minority always got taught that their path is given and nothing in the world can change that. Some priveleges are meant to be for the light-skinned americans. So, most of the black children don’t even try to become something different. It is like a vicious circle.

I love this sentence because in some way I can relate to our own culture. There are some areas for example which define how a woman has to be and finally she becomes that expected human because she starts to believe herself she is not in the position to strive for more. Yes, what and who we become is somehow determinated in our childhood.

How to break the circle? – believe in yourself and don’t let your environment limit you how you have to be or what you can reach in your life. What we have to keep in mind is, that a limit of someone else, should never limit ourselves.
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No is No! (29/03/19)

When a woman doesn’t respond to your messages, it means NO!

When she don’t wanna sit next to you, take it as NO!

When she wears a short skirt, drinks or goes clubbing, it doesn’t mean that you have the right to touch her – NO!

When she walks down the street and you see her, it is NOT legitimized to call her „baby, sweety, sexy.“ – NO!

When she goes home alone, no one has the right to follow and rape her! – NO!

When she posts pictures of herself online – even halfnaked – nothing in the world gives you the right to copy this pictures and create dirty fake accounts! – NO!

When you are horny and need attention, you are not in the position to tell everybody how her body is and how many times you’ve touched her! – NO!

Why there are still men who think that it is okay to treat women like objects? When they have their own instincts not under control, why it is always the woman which is blamed? Ignorance means also NO! Instead of being frustrated and creating more negativity, have enough confidence to not take such situations personally!

Insecure men with low self esteem are a big problem – not women who are who and what they want to be!