Scrolling through the articles but need some short impulses? Then my short inspirational texts from December 2018 could be right for you. Sharing my thoughts on different topics like selfconfidence, perfectionism etc.! Wanna share one of these posts? I wrote them mainly for instagram, but some of them are on facebook too. Have fun and feel inspired!

Perfectionism and Social Media (02/12/18)

When i had my shooting i wanted to have a photo with confetti („When life gets hard throw confetti on it ). This photo was taken when i was suprised. Normally i would have deleted this because 1. Im smiling (i hate smiling on pictures) 2. My lips are looking strange (i try to look perfect in every picture) 3. Dont know what im doing with my hands here.

But i kept that photo. Why? Because it is NOT PERFECT. In Times of social media where everything looks perfect and people getting depressions because of the „perfect life“ of others i thought i should post this one day. Isnt it strange that we try to be perfect and look perfect to impress others instead of Sharing the daily life with eachother? Im not perfect, i make mistakes, do not look everyday like on my photos on Social Media and i have characteristics i have to work on. For example im impatient sometimes. For me this knowledge helps me to work on myself. And thats what i wanna achieve with my blog: get to know me better and help others with it. The Perfect Moments impress – the imperfect connect – my opinion Have a nice sunday  #loveyourflaws

Wanna read more about perfectionism? Click on this link.

Be you (06/12/18)

Almost 3 weeks ago i launched my Personal Blog to Share my experiences With the tamil society, my life and what the experiences made me become: a strong young woman which knows what she wants in life and how to handle difficult situations. A lot of messages from young people who wrote that they are happy to see that they are not alone are keeping me motivated!

When we have a different life from others we are afraid to Share it because „What will others Think if they know how our mindset is?“ What we often forget is that there is another perspective of everything. Instead im asking myself now „What if my way of Thinking and Living can help others to find themself and go their own way?“ – Dont be afraid to show who you are – there will be always People who like it and who don’t.

Be the light (12/12/18)

Sometimes we are going through life with our head down and not recognizing whats happeing left and right. When something happens to us, that makes us sad, we often feel victimized. I had this experience on monday. After months i arranged a breakfast with persons i didnt see a few months. During the journey of few hours the German railway (Deutsche Bahn) went on strike. I got angry because i didnt know how to get punctually to my appointment. Even when i will be at home was uncertain. So i stood in front of the Ticket machine when someone behind asked me: „Where do you wanna go? We have a ticket for five persons. If you want, we can take you with us.“

This act was so small, but had a positive effect on my whole day and my emotional constitution. Suddenly i didnt even care when i was getting home. The Woman who offered me the ride, offered it other people too, because she and her husband were travelling alone. She joked that she hopes to find something beautiful during her shopping trip – in return for her kindness. At that moment she was my light, although i thought i would have a horrible day.

Just yesterday i had a wonderful inspiring conversation with a friend about a similar topic. We talked about life and found out that we sometimes ask ourselves when something bad happens to us „Why are they doing this to us?“ But in this Moment we do not understand that this has less to do with us, but rather with the people that are acting this way. They radiate what they feel inside: insecurity, sadness, anger, disappointment. Instead of being positive or avoiding the situation we often add more negative emotions.

I stood disappointet at the station and the woman saved my day by a small action. Sometimes we should be like her: instead of focussing on us and asking ourselves „Why does this happen to me right now?“ we should go through our life with our heads up and our hearts full, asking each day „What Can we do for someone else for letting them feel better?“ It’s not about whether somebody deserves it or not, it’s about doing it because thats you.

#spreadlove

Quality over Quanity (13/12/18)

It took me years to understand what a high role quality plays in every area of our life. Our todays society teaches us to earn more, have more, gain more. On social media: have more followers, Likes and comments. Afraid of having a „boring“ life we try to get a new shot of happiness hormones like dopamine by posting the most exciting moments of our life.

This attitude is more and more transfered to our private life: when we are bored with our job, friendships, lovelife etc. we tend to gain the next dopamine-shot instead of being happy with what we already have. It’s nothing wrong about having higher life goals. Sometimes they develop during our life but what if we reach for more and more and end up being nowhere? When it is time to say „thats enough“? In a never satturated society where is your limit? #perfectionism

Be thankful (17/12/18)

There are days where you experience something deeply so sad that your heart breaks into thousand pieces. Today was one of these days. We take so much for guaranteed and dont appreciate what we have in life. We think we are doing our best but dont look what we can do better to let feel someone loved.

2012 i lost one of my best friends. She died suddenly. I still know every second of this day. I was in the first year of my nurse-studies and worked at the ward where the newborns and the mothers were after the birth. When i read that she left us, i collapsed and the other nurses send me home. I was with the car and stopped every minute, so needed for the way to home 2 hours instead of 20 minutes. The Next weeks and months i cried my eyes out and was so thankful for my Friends and Family who supported me during this hard time. An horrible experience.

Today was a day that triggered this emotions 6 – almost 7 years – ago. The loss changed me and my viewpoint of life. From then i decided to invite all my friends every year to my birthday. We often get busy in our everydaylife. So why not see eachother at least once a year? – i thought.

Life is short to let negative emotions influence, how you treat other people. We are for example angry because we had an argument with someone about a small unimportant topic. We are to proud to lose our Identity. So we rather keep the silence than take a step forward and talk to this person again.

We often live as we could live forever. Holding all the bad feelings and thoughts in us and forgetting that we can’t change anything when we are gone how someone feels about us. Life is Short. Thats why we should be thankful and let everyone around us feel beautiful when they think about us because if we leave one day this earth nothing else than the experience with us will work in their mind.

1 Month – Be you (18/12/18)

One month ago i launched my Blog With no expectitions. I just wanted to share my experiences and help other people to follow their dreams. Since then i have released 5 articles. Some of them are about cultural differences and some about selfdevelopment. What they have in common is: i put a lot of Work in them and try to find the right words to help you all to find YOUR way to handle this topics. If it is a mental desease like Depression or the struggle being a tamil woman growing up in a western country. #varietyoflife

The Support, Shares and messages are overwhelming! People i didnt talk to a while are writing again and we have wonderful deep conversations. People who were always a part of my life, are pushing me to do what i love. Strangers messaging how the texts are helping them to see something different. And for myself: im exploring new areas of my character, thinking more about me and what can i do to be a better person. #thankyou

Being a tamil woman is not always easy. It seems like we lose our value if we don’t marry before 25, get tons of children and be a calm wife. You can’t wear what you want, talk to who you want and have the people you want in your life. Some women dont have the confidence to be who they are and decide to choose a life to please others. Nothing wrong about that if they are happy with this but the reality shows pleasing others won’t make happy in the long run. #beyou

Nobody is perfect but we can do everyday something to become the best version of us! If you want the best in life, do the best! Same behaviour will you get same results – always. Sometimes we get at a point in life where we recognize that we have to grow, change our behaviour – to get more happiness. #changetogetmore

There is so much more to come and im excited to take you With me on this Journey! Thanks for your Support. It keeps me motivated! #spreadlove

Wanna read more about selfconfidence? Click here.

How to make your 2019 awesome (26/12/18)

We often live as the new year is THE new chance in our lifes. What if i tell you thinking like that will make you unhappy? One of my lessons in 2018 was that life ist too short. Are the last days in december not worth to work on our goals? January is the Magic month: preparing for the summer body, reading more, be more friendly, get better marks etc. We find ourselves in high expectitions, ending up frustrated because everything didnt work out as we wished and thinking „but 2020 will be MY year“. Taking dreams from year to year and asking ourselves why things didn’t work out without understanding that we are our biggest enemy.

Just the last days i saw amazing Videos about how we should handle life. One of these was from Jill Sherer Murray. She describes why letting go can make you more confident and happy! I found myself most in #notyet (5). In special Situations we wait from a Signal from the Universe – it seems like we Need a apporoval to go after what we want.

Another trait i have to work on is: do not Take Things personally (1). Especially when someone has negative Emotions inside, we feel missunderstood or hurt but forgetting their behaviour is a Radiation of that What they feel inside. Not getting into the chaos in the heads of others will save a lot of happiness. For me there exists a connection between letting go What others think (2.), being someone you are not (3.) and the need to be perfect (4.). By trying to impress others, we sometimes get in the situation where we can’t be ourselves. Instead we wanna be the perfect person for someone else and end up hiding who we really are. I think in our tamil society this combination is lived by a lot of young People.

The lesson: focus 2019 more on yourself and what makes you happy. Give everyday the chance to be awesome! Don’t be afraid to let go people, situations and traits. There are 6 days left in 2018 – don’t take them for guaranted.

Wanna read more about letting go and forgivness? Click here.

Impress yourself (31/12/18)

I think everyone of us has a personal story for this year and their own up and downs. For me 2018 was a wonderful year: i got my degree in healthpsychology, Made my dream of a blog come True and much more. But most important: i learned a lot about myself.

When we reach a age above 25 we think we are ready for the life of an adult. Selflove is important but there should be always a space for selfimprovement. Nobody came perfect to this Earth and no one will leave it perfect but what we can do is to ask ourselves everyday „What can i do to be a better person?“ That does not mean that you have to impress everyone – Just impress yourself || have a great last day of 2018