Scrolling through the articles but need some short impulses? Then my short inspirational texts from April 2019 could be right for you. Sharing my thoughts on different topics like selfconfidence, perfectionism etc.! Wanna share one of these posts? I wrote them mainly for instagram, but some of them are on facebook too. Have fun and feel inspired!

Courage (01/04/19)

Since we posted the article yesterday, we got a lot of positive messages, shares and love from you all – thank you! I can notice that everytime when this blog posts an heart touching text, people are more open to share their own stories and experiences. It feels like a beautiful way of connecting with someone.

Growing up in a eastern culture means also, that most of the people convince themselves that everything they do has a sense and above all: a good intention. It is hard to unlearn negative patterns and so, the power of destructive denial enters our lives. Now we have 2 options: being okay with what we got told or have the courage to leave the comfort zone. Leaving the comfort zone means having fear of disappointing ourselves and others.

What we try to avoid in our lives are negative emotions. So, we choose to stay where we are instead of leaving the known and exploring something more beautiful. At the end of the days we pay a high price for this: regret. When you can exchange regret with life lessons, what would you choose?

Negative emotions are a part our lives and can’t be avoided in the long run. We have the choice everyday to grow or to stay in our comfort zone. Make the best of it! Courage is not the absence of fear, it is having the fear while we are walking. And moreover: courage is contagious!

Pleasing others (04/04/19)

Are you one of these people, who are overprotective? One of those, who love to care for someone else? Who thinks „First them, than me.“? – Then this caption is written for you.

Caring for others has different motivational aspects. That means WHY we care for someone else has something to do with ourselves. Especially as little girls, we get already in early ages the responsibility to take care of what others could think, to take care of our siblings, grandparents, parents, our marks in school and the list goes on. Every time we fulfill the responsibility, we get validation from outside. Sentences like „Oh what a good girl. You should be happy to have a daughter like her.“ validate our parents that they are doing everything right. So, society starts to condition our behavior.

As an adult woman we take this bahaviour into our lives and seek validation from others by doing things which please them. So, we care, we put all our energy into someone to reach one thing: the validation. Sometimes when we don’t get the validation from that certain person, we ask ourselves: „But what did I wrong? I was caring, loving and giving! There was nothing what I could have done better.“

What I wanna show you with this text is, that when we got taught that getting validation from others is the only way to define ourselves in our childhood, we will seek for eternal validation in our adulthood, too.

Ask yourself if you are an over-giving person because you learned it that way and if this could make you happy in the long run. Validation is needed and everyone of us is seeking for validation and attention in some way, but it shouldn’t be the only source which defines who you are.

Writing is an art (12/04/19)

When we go to university, it is expected that we write like in a scientific way. There are rules and common standards which have to be followed. Today I had a beautiful inspiring conversation with one of my guest authors.

We talked about how complex writing is and that a good article needs some days, sometimes even weeks of work. This is totally normal for me. For me writing is not just writing down your thoughts and then publishing it – of course that’s possible but that wasn’t ever and won’t be never MY personal standard. I want that people feel what somebody wants to tell through their words, feel their emotions as if they are going through the same and most important: I want add value to the life of people. This can be knowledge, emotions, perspectives, discussion topics etc.

I am happy that there are more people out there who are thinking like me. And I am feeling that this is the beginning of something beautiful. Moreover, I think like science has its own way of writing blogging is an art of writing, too. And we can learn to write in a beautiful way. Sometimes this talent is even inside us and we don’t know it yet. It has not to be perfect. More important is that we are ready to grow

Frustrated. (15/04/19)

I am frustrated. Not because I have no reason to be happy but stalking men have no insight what it means when they are intrusive and don’t understand that NOT every woman likes it. For me it has a touch of control mania and desperation.

When we confront them with their behaviour, only thing they can say is „Oh sorry that was my interest“ or „Hey I thought you feel the same“ or „Sorry this had a good intention“ – and you think „In which jungle do you live that you can say that your behaviour is normal?“

Not only that the behaviour disturbs a lot of young women but also that some men are not civilized enough to see that they are acting like a psycho! And the saddest situation is when finally everyone points the finger at the woman and says:“Maybe you shouldn’t have dress that way“, „Did you say something that did provoke him?“ or „Don’t be that active on social media, boys will see it and write/speak in a wrong way!“

The question behind this post is „Why we are always teaching girls to behave ‚right‘ instead of teaching men how to be civilized?“ Sometimes I have the feeling that the biggest monkeys break out the jungle and act like monkeys and wonder why a woman gets angry and finally everybody supports the monkey by saying“ Hey don’t attract that monkey with bananas“ instead of teaching the monkey not to run to every banana like a #psycho

This is a cummulation of experiences from different people. Just thought today about this

Why I started to blog (17/04/19)

Seeing someone else who blogs and thinking „Wow that has to be a lot of work! And this articles – how inspirational! I wanna read more!“ Who knows this situation? – I was about 3 years ago in this place.

By scrolling through Facebook I found a blog which wrote about taboo topics like bodyshaming. I was so fascinated because I could relate to some of the issues. I felt understood and it felt like someone speaks out what was going thorugh my mind. It was the representation of my own values and opinions. One day I went back to that blog and saw it was deleted. Sadly I looked over the years for other blogs but didn’t find one which included all topics I wished for or weren’t active that much (Now I get more and more an insight into other great blogs, thankful for this!)

After my studies last summer, I thought „Why you don’t be that person you are looking for all the years? Why we are looking for someone else to make the first step if we could do it, too? Missing courage? Or no time? Maybe fearing the consequences?“ So, I talked with my friends about my idea and as always they were pushing me into the right direction!

What I learned from this is, that we sometimes fear situations and the most negative outcome without taking the risk. Telling yourself everyday „Maybe someone else will create what I’m looking for“ will change nothing and maybe this blog won’t change the world but at least it will initiate new discussions and help some persons to overcome a difficult situation.

Waiting around at home with the attitude: „What can a single person change?“ won’t change anything! See the potential and take action! That’s the real solution.

Express yourself! (26/04/19)

At the end of my school days when I was 18/19, I admired people people for their talents. Some were good in sports, some were a talented singer, doing great art or played a instrument in a impressive way. Looking back at me, I thought „Okay what is your strength?“ and I figured out that I had nothing to offer than myself. When I wanted to go to footbal with 14, my dad said „Ah, footbal is just for boys – focus on something what girls do“ Result was that I did nothing than reading books (I always was a bookworm, I remember how I borrowed 4-5 books from the school library once a week when I was in primary school. Whereas in my early adulthood I didn’t read that much).

Maybe this was destiny, but what I wanna say is that by putting people into a drawer we limit them. Not saying that would be the female Christiano Ronaldo today (maybe something similar ) but that I searched for something to express my creativity and failed. Not because I wasn’t interested but my environment tried to put me in a box. That’s just one example and I can imagine that everyone of you has at least one situation in life where you wanted to express what you feel and think and someone said that this isn’t right for you.

I want that everyone figures out what she or he likes and does the best to reach a lot of people with their expression of creativity. Creativity has not only to do with writing, singing, dancing etc. But is also for me doing sports, being a photographer, designing websites etc. Find your way to express yourself!