Scrolling through the articles but need some short impulses? Then my short inspirational texts and videos from June 2019 could be right for you. Sharing my thoughts on different topics like selfconfidence, perfectionism etc.! Wanna share one of these posts? I wrote and filmed them mainly for instagram, but some of them are on facebook too. Have fun and feel inspired!

Forgiveness (01/06/19)

Forgiveness is not only about forgiving someone else. It is also forgiving yourself for

– not knowing it better
– not being perfect
– your vulnerability
– being different from what you wanted to be in certain moments
– having flaws

Take the new lessons with you and make it better, next time. Nobody is perfect and will ever be. Love yourself for who you are. 💛

„Are you more German or Tamil?“ (10/06/2019)

„Are you more German or Tamil?“ – a question we hear a lot. Especially we kids, who were raised up in a western country, are struggling between two cultures. But what is typical „German“ and „Tamil“? Some would say the clothes, the food etc. But when it comes to classic behaviourial patterns, we are struggling to find answers.

The term being „open“ is often considered as western. But there are western families, who are more conservative than some families from Eastern countries. What I think is, that culture doesn’t have to do anything with the context, more with our inner attitude.

Moreover it disturbs me that some people want to teach other people their definition of „cultural“ behaviour without having in mind that culture is expressed individually and has different areas. I can have a conservative thinking towards topic A and still be open towards topic B. People should stop thinking in white and black and be more open for the shades inbewtween.

More about the Blog, my mission and vision – IGTV Video (13/06/2019)

„Vijitha, bist du jetzt Bloggerin? Und was machst du genau?“

Hallo zusammen, ich möchte in meinem ersten Video etwas zu den Hintergründen und der Mission dieses Blogs erzählen. Wieso gibt es diesen Blog? Was möchte ich damit bezwecken und was könnt ihr so in der Zukunft erwarten? You can watch this German IGTV-Video here.

„Ladies, don’t be desperate!“ (18/06/2019)

I imagine one of the typical conversations when you are 20-25+. „Oh you didn’t marry yet? There are so many nice guys out there, hurry up!“

Sometimes it is feeling like that especially elder people have the image in their mind that finding a life partner is like going to the supermarket and choosing a product and leaving the market again. Point is that life isn’t a supermarket and marriage is not like buying food.

I imagine when I wrote about few months ago an article about being unmarried and 30. This article was also published on a bigger plattform and a lot of messages shares etc. reached me. But there were also people who reacted in a negative way and told women not to set their standards to high, because „They aren’t good enough“ unless they earn above the average and have a outstandingly physical appearance.

And the first question crossed my mind was: „Who are you to tell other women how to set their standards?“ Problem is that a lot of people feel that they have the right to choose what is right FOR YOU, push you into a direction without accepting that every women has the right to choose her individual path. Result is that some women don’t have the confidence to stand for what they are and choose the first option which crosses their way – sometimes even sacrifice their dreams to end up as a person the never wanted to be.

Society won’t stay by your side and wipe your tears away when you choose an abusive, narcissistic man. After you are married and have kids their „job“ is done. Take care of yourself and have the courage to go after what you want. Let it be the career, the marriage, both etc. What matters is that it is your choice! Don’t make decisions out of fear because fear is not good life guide – confidence is!

Introspection (24/06/19)

What I personally learned the last months is being more aware of what I am saying, doing and thinking. Sometimes we do or say things which don’t bring the results we expected because we did something without having a focus. I personally think that the more you know yourself the more it is easier for you to set boundaries and have your standards.

So, I am asking myself everyday

• What do I want to achieve in my life?
• Are my rituals supporting my goals or are they preventing me from reaching them?
• What can I do to better myself, everyday?
• And how can I set boundaries to maintain my focus?

Sometimes we focus on what others do or want and forget what we want in the first place. That’s why it is important to listen to yourself.

About me, my attitude towards life and more – IGTV Video (28/06/19)

My attitude towards life, what I am doing professionally and more.

In this video I am telling you more about my attitude towards life, how my environment reacted to my blog, my professional background and more. In German with English subtitles! You can watch the IGTV Video here.